Configuring parcel with Compiled causes an invalid cache

[JakeLane]

Describe the bug
When changing the configuration for the @compiled/parcel-transformer plugin, there is emergent behaviour related to the files processed by babel. This happens because we read from disk and parcel does not have context in the cache for these changes.

To Reproduce
Steps to reproduce the behaviour:

1. Configure a parcel project with @compiled/parcel-transformer
2. Change babel behaviour in babel.config.json
3. The parcel cache will now be invalid

Expected behaviour
When the babel configuration is changed, the parcel transformer should mark relevant files as stale

Additional context
This babel PR allows adding file dependencies which should allow us to work around this problem babel/babel#14065