Updatable grain timers

[ReubenBond]

Fixes #8952

This PR implements the above proposal to align IGrainTimer more closely with Timer from the BCL, granting users a couple of useful additions:

1. Grain timer dueTime and period can be changed after the timer has been created.
2. Grain timer can be disposed asynchronously - the disposal task completes after any pending callback complete.

Here are the key API changes:

namespace Orleans.Runtime;

// New type, similar to ITimer
public interface IGrainTimer : IDisposable, IAsyncDisposable
{
    void Change(TimeSpan dueTime, TimeSpan period);
}

// Update return type from IDisposable to IGrainTimer:

public interface ITimerRegistry
{
    IGrainTimer RegisterTimer(IGrainContext grainContext, Func<object?, Task> asyncCallback, object? state, TimeSpan dueTime, TimeSpan period);
}

public abstract class Grain : IGrainBase, IAddressable
{
  // ...
  protected IGrainTimer RegisterTimer(Func<object?, Task> asyncCallback, object? state, TimeSpan dueTime, TimeSpan period)
  // ...
}

This PR implements the following:

• Make IGrainTimer public
• Update IGrainTimer to match the Change(dueTime, period) style of ITimer from the BCL
• Update RegisterTimer methods to return IGrainTimer instead of just IDisposable
• Internally, rewrite GrainTimer, which is the class which implements IGrainTimer to support this functionality, and update consumers to accommodate.

Microsoft Reviewers: Open in CodeFlow

[ReubenBond]

@benjaminpetit PTAL

[ReubenBond]

I will rework this to align it with non-reeentrant timers