[core] fix use_frameworks with new arch

[Kudo]

Why

fix header not found issue when using frameworks on new architecture
fixes #28209

How

the header search path is from EXJavaScriptRuntime.mm -> HermesExecutorFactory.h -> <jsinspector-modern/InspectorInterfaces.h>. the correct import should be underlined "jsinspector_modern" in the import. the code is inside react-native core that we cannot touch.
this pr tries to use the add_dependency() from react-native core that we specify extra ":framework_name".

also cleanup some unused search paths that are added through install_modules_dependencies().
we also have to wait 0.74.1 for facebook/react-native#44252

Test Plan

• use_frameworks=static + hermes + newArchEnabled=true
• use_frameworks=static + jsc + newArchEnabled=true
• hermes + newArchEnabled=true
• jsc + newArchEnabled=true
• hermes + newArchEnabled=false
• jsc + newArchEnabled=false
• use_frameworks=static + hermes + newArchEnabled=false

Checklist

• Documentation is up to date to reflect these changes (eg: https://docs.expo.dev and README.md).
• Conforms with the Documentation Writing Style Guide
• This diff will work correctly for npx expo prebuild & EAS Build (eg: updated a module plugin).

[linear]

ENG-11972 [expo-modules][SDK51] build error with `useFrameworks` and new architecture enabled

[leonhh]

@Kudo I think we can we merge this now, right? Your PR has been released in 0.74.1 and is also already available in expo #28593

[Kudo]

ios updates e2e are failed unrelated. will investigate asides from this pr.