lib: child process queue pending messages

It fixes the problem for the child process not receiving messages.

Fixes: #41134

lib/internal/child_process.js

@@ -526,6 +526,7 @@ class Control extends EventEmitter {
   constructor(channel) {
     super();
     this.#channel = channel;
+    this.pendingMessages = new Set();
   }
 
   // The methods keeping track of the counter are being used to track the
@@ -699,6 +700,19 @@ function setupChannel(target, channel, serializationMode) {
     });
   });
 
+  target.on('newListener', function () {
+    if(!target.channel) return;
+
+    const messages = target.channel.pendingMessages;
+    if (!messages.size) return;
+
+    for (const messageParams of messages) {
+      process.nextTick(target.emit.bind(target), ...messageParams);
+    }
+
+    messages.clear();
+  });
+
   target.send = function(message, handle, options, callback) {
     if (typeof handle === 'function') {
       callback = handle;
@@ -912,7 +926,15 @@ function setupChannel(target, channel, serializationMode) {
   };
 
   function emit(event, message, handle) {
-    target.emit(event, message, handle);
+    const args = [event, message, handle];
+    const isInternalMessage = "internalMessage" === event;
+    const hasListenersInstalled = target.listenerCount('message');
+    if (hasListenersInstalled || isInternalMessage) { 
+      target.emit(...args);
+      return;
+    }
+
+    target.channel.pendingMessages.add(args);
   }
 
   function handleMessage(message, handle, internal) {