ci: fix build/release CI

[femshima]

Please describe the changes this PR makes and why it should be merged:

ref: nodejs/node-gyp#2219
ref: nodejs/node-gyp#2869

This PR includes following changes:

• Fix python version to 3.8 in node <=17 and 19 (ValueError: invalid mode: 'rU' while trying to load binding.gyp (Python 3.9 compatibility issue) nodejs/node-gyp#2219)
• Remove macos-10.15 and ubuntu-18.04 runner (They are no longer supported)
• Add apt update before apt install
• Add macos-13 runner
• Add node.js 20 and 21

Current workflow does not succeed due to updates to python 3.12 in github runners.

Fix python version to 3.8 in node <=17 and 19

Downgrading to python 3.8 is necessary in older node.js, because nodejs/node-gyp#2219 was fixed in gyp-next v0.7.0/node-gyp v0.8.0, which is not included in older node.js.

Remove macos-10.15 and ubuntu-18.04 runner

Also, macos-10.15 and ubuntu-18.04 runner job never starts, so I suggest removing them.

Add apt update before apt install

The Failed to fetch 404 not found error had occured because of this, and this PR also fixes that.

Add macos-13 runner
Add node.js 20 and 21

Finally, I added macos-13 runner and node.js 20/21, because I think it is better to run test for these environment and provide prebuild.
However, if you feel these should be in another PR and discussed separately, I am willing to remove them.

Semantic versioning classification:

• This PR changes the library's interface (methods or parameters added)
  • This PR includes breaking changes (methods removed or renamed, parameters moved or removed)
• This PR only includes non-code changes, like changes to documentation, README, etc.